Expectations vs commitment

When I hear the word commitment, I can sometimes feel overwhelmed because I automatically think it’s about having very high expectations. I put a lot of pressure on myself that things need to be perfect before I leave and can let it go. With this blog for example, I feel like my posts need to be written correctly and have the perfect content which is not true. Besides that, everyone has a different level of perfect, so does perfect even exist?

I have started many blogs before but then always quit after a while since I either got bored, had to high expectations on myself or was affraid of what others would think about what I was writing. My content where mostly about my day to day life and that’s probably why I got bored. I’m not on adventures every single day and I really don’t see any value in posting pictures of your dinner every day or talking about the weather, that’s me. This time I have decided to post once a week, about anything health related or things I’m interested in and feel like others would benefit from.

I’m reminding myself it doesn’t have to be a certain amount of words or length. It doesn’t have to be written in a certain way and it doesn’t have to be perfect, since that doesn’t even exist. Don’t put too high expectations on yourself when it comes to commitment because then you only set yourself up for failure which only confirm that you can’t commit to things and you give up.

These are a few things to think of when it comes to commitment or if you want to start practice and become better at it. To show up and start counting on yourself which will make you feel more satisfied and confident.

1. Have a strong why

If you don’t know why you are doing things or it feels like you are doing something for someone else, then you will find it very hard to commit to that thing. Make sure you do it for yourself. It doesn’t have to be for a big goal, just as simple as you want to go for a 20 min walk everyday because when you come back, you feel focused, happy and energised and that is a great feeling you want to feel every day.

2. Set reasonable commitments

Sounds pretty simple but we still often set commitments that we can’t keep up with. We fail, feel bad and think we can’t. If you have a goal, start small. The important thing in this case is not the result but that you keep going towards that goal.

3. Have a back up plan

Sometimes you just don’t have the time for your commitments and this is where it can be a good idea with a shorter back up plan. Lets say you have a specific morning routine which includes 10 min meditation, 10 min yoga and 10 min journaling (Yes, thats my ideal morning routine). Do I commit to this every single day? No, I don’t. So when I don’t have half an hour over in the morning, I just make sure I do at least one of these things and maybe even shorten it down to only 5 min. That will still make me feel better since I never gave up my whole routine that morning. I still showed up for myself since I know these routines will help to set me up for a good day.

With my blog, I see it as a commitment to myself to just post something instead of nothing because i’m not satisfied with it. I also know I have a lot of fun and valuable things to share with you. 😊